Category: Advice

Hurt people hurt people – why bullying happens

This is a fantastic guest post from Thinking Family – Stop Bullying Forever. I hope that you will learn a lot from it!

As many as 85% of youths say they are bullied. How can that number be so high? Who is doing all this bullying? The answer may not be what you expect. Bullying, as it turns out, may be one big cycle of anger and violence that actually starts with a victim. The general idea is that people who are hurt then hurt others.

When a person hurts someone it not only damages them physically, it also damages their confidence and self-esteem. That person will then seek out ways to make themselves feel better. In many cases the way they go about that is to hurt someone else. When a person is hurt and feels small, they want to strike out so hurting someone else and making them feel small may make the bully feel better, at least for a short time. This starts the cycle. The first hurt person hurts a second person who then hurts a third person and so on. It doesn’t take long to see how one person being bullied can turn into two then three then five and so on. read more

Taking Stress Out of Waiting to Get Pregnant

A lot of factors contribute to the success of a woman getting pregnant but it is quite difficult to determine exactly the duration of having a successful pregnancy.

Some factors that should be considered for couples who want to have a baby are intercourse or sexual contact that are timed following schedule of ovulation and cycle of women, and quality and quantity of sperm. In addition, couples should consider a healthy lifestyle free from smoking, alcohols, and drugs, a balanced and nutritious diet, and maintaining a normal weight for their age. These factors are more important for women who will bear the baby in their womb for nine months. Taking folate supplements and multivitamins, and avoiding caffeine also contribute significantly to a healthy childrearing. read more

Parenting Tips

Do you ever feel like your kids are in charge ? You are not Alone. We love our kids so much that they end up taking advantage of us. But it does not have to be that way. You have the ability and talent to be the best parent possible. Our unconditional love can’t and should not get in the way of us being good parents.

Today, I will offer some tips that will allow us show our kids that we love them and we are in charge.

1. Real Reward:
We tend to remember the bad things they do and forget to encourage and praise them for the good they do. Adults underestimate kids; they are have superior intelligences ,and they tend to remember a lot more than we can even imagine. If a child is starving for your attention, they they might do something bad because they get more attention by doing so. Yes, I agree that we must scold them for bad things ,but we equally must be cognitive of their good deeds. When I say rewards them, I don’t mean giving them candy or toys;rather, we must just say a nice and encouraging word such as good baby or you are smart child. More is less;the simplest rewards are the best. read more

Minneapolis bridge

Until yesterday, I did not realize the devastation the collapsing of the Minneapolis bridge had.I saw some pictures ,but they did not depict feelings and emotions of the victims and survivors. Tragedies happen everyday around the world ,so it is important that we draw lessons from those incidents. Today ,I will discuss three things that parents and everyone as well can learn from the Minneapolis bridge collapse.

Structurally Deficient:

Parents have to be aware of issues their children are having and fix those problem promptly . We must not put band aids on their issues.Structurally Deficient is the term that inspectors label the bridge as early as 1990. They just did patch up(Band Aid) work. It appears the bridge needed a complete overhaul .When our kids have issues we must address them immediately before a greater disasters occur. Find out what those issues are! If you feel you can’t talk to your kids then you must read reconnecting with your kids. Life is precious so talk to your kids before it is too late. read more

Ways to increase your kids self esteem

Put all excuses aside and remember this: YOU are capable.
~Zig Ziglar

In a nutshell ,self esteem is how we feel and think about ourselves. If we have high self esteem ,then we tend to live happier and productive lives. If we have low self esteem, the we live a miserable and unproductive life. Today, our children’s self esteem are at a all time low. Our kids are not happy with themselves and are taking all kinds of “Happy” drugs to be “Normal”. Parents can help their children to increase their self esteem. Today, we will discuss three simple ways parents can increase their kids self esteem. read more

Role Model

I don’t believe professional athletes should be role models. I believe parents should be role models…. It’s not like it was when I was growing up. My mom and my grandmother told me how it was going to be. Parents have to take better control. ~Charles Barkley

We are our child’s best role models. Don’t ever forget that, and we have set the best example for them. Athletes, musicians, and stars will never be able replace real role models like parents. You might not realize it yet but to your kids you are a rock star. read more