Pay Attention

“There isn’t any formula or method. You learn to love by loving-by paying attention and doing what one thereby discovers has to be done.”

~Aldous Huxley

Do you ever feel that your not connecting with you children?
Today, I will mention a few things I experienced and observed when we pay close attention to children.

3 thing we could learn by paying attention to our children:

They need our time:

Time is the most valuable thing you will ever give your children. . I remember reading an article where a CEO and his children were interviewed during their Caribbean vacation. The CEO said he enjoyed being a way from his busy work environment. His children said that they enjoyed spending time with their father. The CEO’s children further stated that the liked spending time with their father more than the vacation destination. Spending time with our children do not have to be expensive.

They look up to us:

Contrary to popular demand most children view their parents as role models. I remember growing up wanting to be like Michael Jordan ,but I realized that my parents were making greater sacrifices for me than any professional athlete. Even today, I still admire and look up to my parents. Most children do look up to their parents. Try to be a good example for them.

They want us to listen to them

We have to talk less and listen more. Just because we are the parents does not mean we are dictators. Our children will say some of the most profound thing but because we are too busy talking down or silencing them we will miss those statements.If we want to teach them to respect and listen to us, then we have to start by listening to them.

Pay attention to your children.

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